Yesterday I watched a speech by Jim Carey about fear. It really resonated with me and inspired this blog post. In the video posted here he says,
“so many of us choose our path out of fear disguised as practicality.”
Wow! What a profound thought. It made me think about my path and in which decisions I have been fearless and which decisions I’m still disguising as practicality. It’s easy to make decisions based on our fear. Most of us live in fear of failure, fear of success, fear of the unknown, fear of vulnerability…the list goes on.
In fact, fear is exactly what has been keeping me from starting this blog…fear that I didn’t know what to write about, fear of not knowing how to voice myself, fear of being misunderstood, fear that nobody would be interested.
Well today I’m choosing to be fearless instead of fearful. When fear controls our lives we never live in joy and love. We make choices based on that fear and never live up to our true potential. If I don’t start my blog I can’t fail at my blog, right? Well, failing isn’t starting the blog and not succeeding at it. Failing is not starting the blog at all and assuming that nobody cares about what I have to say! (I’ll leave that up to you and not my fear.) Imagine all of that potential that you may be hiding from yourself and the world because of your fear!
Think about how you feel when you live in fear. Seriously, think about something you’re afraid of doing. Is it a career change? Moving to a new location? Ending a relationship that you know isn’t healthy? Where do you feel it in your body? Close your eyes if it helps to really tap into what’s going on inside of you. Now how does that fear make you feel? Does it make you feel nauseous? Sad? Angry? Do you feel pain somewhere in your body when you think about that fear?
Now I want you to think about something that brings you joy, something you love. Think about every aspect of that thing and all the ways it makes you happy. Allow that love and joy to fully encompass your being. Close your eyes and stay with that feeling for a few moments. How does that make you feel? Where are you feeling it in your body? Do you feel warm? Tingly? Full? Bright?
Which way would your rather feel? Sad, nauseous, in pain, or happy, warm, and bright? Holding those heavy thoughts and emotions in our bodies can create pain and dysfunction. I’m sure you don’t want to live in pain, I know I don’t! If you practice Reiki you can use it on yourself to help with some of those heavy feelings and pain to help bring about peace, happiness, and warmth. If you’re interested in learning Reiki you can learn more about it here.
A very hard decision to make fearlessly was the one to leave my well paying job at a high-end salon and spa to open up my own business in a recession. I remember family and friends saying to me, “are you sure it’s a good idea to open a business now in the recession? Massage is probably going to be one of the first things people cut out of their budget!” And although I was scared, I knew I was not fulfilling my life’s purpose by working where I was. Believe me, it wasn’t easy! It was quite terrifying in fact. I remember reading this quote over and over again by Patrick Overton and kept thinking , regardless of the outcome I will be ok. There will either be something solid for me to stand on or I will learn to fly!
“When you walk to the edge of all the light you have and take that first step into the darkness of the unknown, you must believe that one of two things will happen. There will be something solid for you to stand upon or you will be taught to fly.”
How are you living your life right now? Are you full of fear or are you living life fearlessly. Think about your daily actions…where are they coming from? Are they coming from a place of fear or love? Are you doing what makes your heart sing? If not, ask yourself why. I encourage you to take small steps daily to work toward your goals and living your life in joy. What are the little changes that you can make that are more in alignment with what you want? Don’t let fear control your actions and decisions. Live your life fearlessly. I dare you to live your dreams!
Want to see Jim Carey’s full speech? Watch it here!